Purity. When you hear or see this word what immediately comes to mind?
Very seldom when I would hear the word purity, the word Holy always seemed to define the word for me. To be pure seemed like a fairy tale. As if the idea of the word was only legal in a magical world.
By definition purity means- freedom from immorality, especially of a sexual nature. Freedom from adulteration or contamination.
Well the first time my boyfriend (now husband) said the word purity to me, came in the form of a challenge. He basically decided to pray about how we should walk in purity in our relationship and in turn Holy Spirit started teaching him about purity and what it will look like for us. In the beginning of our relationship, like most people, we spent a lot of time together. Conversing, getting to know one another. Well within the first few months of dating it happened.. we kissed. At first it was normal to me. I didn’t feel bothered or indifferent. This is what all couples do right? Everyone kiss to show their affection towards one another.
Well.. The very thing I was oblivious to was the exact thing I was getting ready to experience. Except I wasn’t “ready”. I mean after all, I had no clue what purity looked like.
So we embarked on a journey of purity. It’s one thing to just think about purity it’s a whole different thing to live it out. We had to be practical if we were serious about this thing called purity. One thing I learned off bat was purity starts in your heart. To be pure wasn’t just about abstaining from showing affection to my boyfriend but it also travels with you through marriage as well (that’s a topic that needs its own blog post lol). With the leading of the Holy Spirit we wrote down the boundaries that we knew caused us to compromise. One of our boundaries consisted of us postponing kissing until we were at the alter. And getting intimate was for marriage, that was a boundary we set individually before we started courting. Having those boundaries helped us (with God’s grace and leading of the Holy Spirit) to stay focus on what’s important and not fall into compromise.
So the wedding day came and we were able to look back on our journey and say, “It’s possible!” We made a decision to honor purity in our lives and relationship and in turn the Holy Spirit led us. It wasn’t only a fairy tale, it was reality.
The journey of purity happened to be one that is not popular in today’s culture, but it is definitely possible after all. I encourage you to set out to be a trailblazer and challenge yourself. You don’t have to let your temptations and what the status quo says is it, be it for you. You have self control for a reason, use it.
Proverbs 25:28 “A person without self-control is like a house with its doors and windows knocked out.” MSG
2 Corinthians 6:6 ““We prove ourselves by our purity, our understanding, our patience, our kindness, by the Holy Spirit within us, and by our sincere love.” NLT